Questions from Client
Although I've taken positive steps to refocus energy back to me into it's still difficult to keep him from popping into my mind. I know you said that it might be beneficial to not believe what "you" say so that the predictions might happen. I'm not sure what I should be doing --- let go and not believe what you are predicting or have faith that it will happen? Sometimes I feel contradictory trying to be "whatever" about the predictions, but still have faith in them. Sometimes I feel that if I try not to believe what you've predicted, I'm sending a message out there that I don't want it and I'm closing the door to him. Is the point to let go, be "whatever" in the sense of "whatever happens, happens" and trust that everything will work out the way it's meant to be? Help???

Answers
Letting Go is a state of mind. That state of mind creates behavior that in turn shows you that you are letting go. There are many steps in the letting go process which I will outline in a bit, the first one is always the most important; deciding to Let Go. Making that decision sets energy in motion whether you act upon it immediately or not. Once you have made your decision, you will still waiver back and forth for a while between "dwelling" and "letting go." This is a natural process and is perfectly acceptable.

There are good days and there are bad days while you try to Let Go. On Monday you may feel like you are on top of the world and that "what's his name" who kept your mind occupied before is a distant memory. Then on Tuesday you can hardly get out of bed because your mind keeps replaying that one awful fight where it all fell apart and you are doomed to relive it over and over analyzing what you should have said but did not. When Wednesday comes you feel sad and hopeless, "will I ever find love again?" Thursday brings a ray of sunshine as the cute bank teller winks at you and you feel attractive. Friday starts off well with you focused on work and your favorite hobby, yet by Friday night you have gone through half a box of tissues while watching "our favorite movie."

Guess what? Whether you believe it or not, you made progress that week! Each time you are able to refocus and feel like you are in control, you step forward. When you slide into dwelling again, you do not always fall back, you usually just stop progressing for the moment.

The idea is to have more good days than bad days. When you notice that you have five good days and two bad a week, you are on fire! Pat yourself on the back and buy yourself that double mocha coffee you think is overpriced.

After a few weeks you have a much better handle on what it takes mentally to refocus. As soon as you feel like you have beaten the whole situation it sneaks in and tests you. Are you really letting go? Are you as far along as you think? Everyone you meet has that person's name. They might email you junk mail that details the life of Eskimo's in Florida. You find out they slept with the flusy last week that slept with your last boyfriend and your brother. Or even more simply, you just dive into Dwell Mode and feel like all your hard work was pointless.

The test is always hard for the level you are working on. If you notice I said Test, but what I really should say is Tests. Unless your mind is a steel trap with an on/off switch, it will take time and many tests to get you into Let Go Mode. Boy that sucks! I hear you, and yes, it can suck sometimes. And why is it you going through this and not them? How come they can just move one like I never existed? Those questions become part of the new reason you slip into Dwell Mode. Even when you are doing great, you start questioning the whole situation on a new level.

When you are told "don't believe this or expect it" it is simply a way for the advisor to point out that you might be holding on to the predictions so much that you are strangling them. Now, here is where clients get confused, and rightfully so. With the idea of positive affirmations and not thinking negatively because you will draw more negative into your life, how can you disbelieve something and not push it away?

The Happy Go Luckies
There are many ways to manifest, but I will focus on the two major schools of thought for now. The first way is to believe it, love it, focus on it, magnetize it to you, be it, and feel as positive as you can all the time. Yes that way actually works. However, you have to be mentally built for that way to reap results. If you are someone who leans more on the pessimistic, fear, hopeless, this sucks attitude then the happy go lucky manifesting will not work for you. You have to be optimistic, genuinely positive, content, and most importantly, believe it 99.9% to go out there and manifest like you are Tony Robbins (he is a motivational speaker and manifester).

The Dwell Mode Junkies
The second way is to figure out what you want, ask for it, forget about it, and pretend you did not ask for it. All you really have to do is send a message out to the Universe or God and then forget about it. Sounds easy enough, right? Well, it is easy, if you can forget about what you want, but most of us cannot. The trick to "letting go" is having the knowledge that you will get what you want one way or another.

The Happy Go Luckies know that they can get what they want, so therefore, fear and insecurity do not play a role in their manifesting. The Dwell Mode Junkies are not always sure they can have what they want. Fear feeds into the equation. Bad results plague the manifester. Insecurity drives a wedge between wanting and having. Figure out which of the two you are. Knowing your pros and cons is very vital to manifesting and Letting Go.

The concern about counter-acting "positive energy" with not believing or not caring is valid. What is interesting is that it can work for your benefit.

Example
Let's say that I tell you that Mr. X is going to call you next week. Then I tell you, try not to focus on it, it will help it happen. You get off the phone and say "okay, don't think about it, don't think about it, I wonder what he'll say, what is he going to want?" You then spend the next week thinking of your "fantasy contact" and then he does not call. He did not call because he did not have to, you were giving him a lot of energetic attention; he had no reason to seek you out. Now if you had gotten off the phone with me and said "she's a kook! He'll never call me!" and you went about your week like you normally do with little to no thought about him calling, he will call. (This is not an exact science so this will not happen in every case, but it is generally how things happen for most people.)

If you notice, when you did not believe the prediction, you gave it a negative thought. "He won't call, he hasn't called yet, he doesn't even own a phone…"