OK, so there is "destiny" and there is "free will". Say you are destined to
win the lottery in this lifetime. However, you lock yourself in your house
and NEVER leave to buy a lottery ticket. It makes it kind of hard to win.
Right? But since you are destined to win, somebody will eventually buy that
lottery ticket FOR you and "voila", you win!
Whenever I read for people, I can often tell if I am reading karma or
"destiny" (the stuff that is dumped in our life's path or contracts with
others we choose to experience before we come into this lifetime.) Some of
this stuff we want and have lessons to learn from, and some of it we don't
want.
If you have a "connection" with somebody that you can't shake and there is a
lot of back and forth drama, chances are the relationship is supposed to be
in your life's path. You have probably shared another/other lifetime(s) with
this person and have agreed to meet up again in this lifetime. Because this
is karma/destiny, the connection would continue to exist until you have met
each other agreements.
We cannot pick who we fall in love with; however, on this earth and in this
body, we fall under very specific universal laws. The one I am compelled to
share with you is "that which you think is drawn to you" or "as you think,
so you are". This is The Law of Attraction.
The way it works (and this is without exception) is that whatever you are
thinking is mixed with emotion (positive or negative), you bring into (or
manifest) into your present reality. Sixteen seconds of this "recipe" is
equal to two weeks of our "time". The problem is we are not always
deliberately creating, drawing unto us or manifesting. We are stuck in
anxiety and fear or depression all the while thinking about those things
that cause us such negative emotion. The result is we are draw more of
the same problems into our lives.
Thought + Emotion = Created Reality
Positive Thought + Positive Emotion = Positive Reality
Negative Thought + Negative Emotion = Negative Reality
Positive Thought + Negative Emotion = A Deadlock - Limbo Reality
If you want something so bad (i.e. your relationship to be more balanced
without all the back and forth stuff) then focusing on what you want is
good. However, when you mix it with emotions of anxiety or sadness because
you do not yet have it, you are preventing it from coming to you.
Believe me it is not like you are a puppet master and controlling the whole
situation. The other person has a "co-creating" role in this too, yet
they are most often reacting off your energy/emotions and participating in
the "separation."
So, because YOU have this knowledge, it is important to:
1. Block your energy whenever you are feeling "blue" (you do this by
pretending there is an imaginary box all around you and you simply say to
yourself, "my energy stays with me."
2. Keep your mind as blank as possible whenever you find yourself
experiencing ANYTHING but positive emotion.
3. Focus on what you want. Ask yourself why you want it. Get happy about
"having" it. Keep those THOUGHTS and EMOTIONS constant for at least 16
seconds.
I cannot emphasize enough how detrimental your anxiety and sadness over your
situation creates an energy that is like "glue" - energy than cannot do
anything because of this "bi-polar" force. How can it go forward and get what you want
if you are holding it back with fear? Be positive.
You are in complete control of your life whether you have yourself in a Karmic situation
or not. How fast you are attracting a prediction is
completely up to you.